May 2023 Awareness week

This month had a mental awareness week. I must of admit I do have struggles along with vibes. I’ve been up and down like a roller coaster and it tried to throw me of my track.

I also admit I’m on daily medication as well.

However, the week flew by and we need to talking about mental health. Taking away the stigma and the fear of it. I’ve admitted to people I’m on daily medication and people still see the normal person.

It’s okay not to be ok, so slow down, breathe in the nature around you, feel the sun on you and enjoy life.

April 2023 beat your personal bests

Everyone would love to have a world record. I would and nearly got one on the gaming platform. However it came with a price. It drove my anixety and stress levels up.

How do we cope?

Breath and accept it.

Or how about creating your own records, your personal bests.

It could be anything like push ups, beating a time or high score.

Firstly concentrate on you. You’re the important one.

Then create a target, hopefully an exercise target, or set one up.

Then beat it which will become a new target and reward yourself.

Then smash it again.

It will eventually get harder so keep going. However, if you have a relapse and fall back to square one. Don’t panic just restart your journey by creating a base target. Beat that target and you will make it back to the original target you previously set.
So keep beating your own personal bests because you never know the reward could you are the owner of a new world record.

March 2023 Drain the bucket

Throughout the winter my mental health was poor. I was anxious and stressed about stuff that wasn’t necessary and at the same time depressed. Now, I feel better after seeking help and searching for the right tools to help.

To monitor my stress and anxiety I imagine a bucket of water with a tap at the bottom.
Then I imagine the liquid is anxiety and stress filling up the bucket. It can be at any speed. Slow in a calm environment or fast in a stressful environment. The tap at the bottom of the bucket, depends how you handle it. If it trickles the bucket will fill faster and you will be overwhelmed. If it flows the bucket drains quicker and you will be a lot calmer and be in the zone.

To drain the bucket I found breathing techniques helped, walking through nature and listening to it.

Walking
Go outside if you can to a calming environment and enjoy the moment. Listen to the soothing sounds .

Breathing techniques

square
Slow and control your breathing. Imagine a square, you breath in for four second hold for four breath out for four, hold four and repeat.

Deep
Breath in the air all the way and let it all out. Keep going for a few minutes.

However, if these are not the tools for you to empty the bucket there are other areas you can begin your search like podcasts, documentaries and the internet.

So drain that bucket and be in control

February 2023 pots of gold

Throughout the year we have known bills to pay off. Most people leave till the last minute or on the day to pay it taking a chuck of your monthly wages or on a credit card which you may have to pay extra on interest. So, how about set a side some money each other ready to pay off a bill.

One pot can be for the car
One pot can be for a holiday
One pot can be a emergency fund
And list the goes on for any other known bills to off.

Setting aside money for different pots can avoid stress and stop worrying like

No set a side money
How can I pay for this when I need to pay for that…

Cash pot
I need to pay for this lucky i have X amount of money in this pot to pay for it and i can slowly build it back up again.

To void finance stress and worrying create pots and spread the cost over the year instead of trying to scrape cash or paying off a card with added interest, (unless you pay it in full)

January 2023 solo

Most of us can feel lonely at times or feel they are missing out. Some people think being alone actually feels like freedom.

The major points of being alone are
• You can to places without being held back or someone saying no.
• You can do whatever you want whenever you want.
• You can go anytime from a venue without waiting for people.

Go out solo and go somewhere you meet people. It could be:

• In a cafe reading a book or doing creatively.

• In a bird hide watch or taking photos of birds.

• Exploring different places and be inspired by them. • Have a short weekend away somewhere in the UK.

When you meet people just say hello and smile. In bird hides, I managed to talk to people about different things. So go enjoy yourself as being solo because you never know you may meet another solo traveler. Even Valentine’s is next month. Celebrate it with yourself and love yourself because if you don’t love yourself, how would you love others.

December 2022 plan the year

It’s the end of the year and the mad rush is gone and now it’s the calm before the storm again or is it.

Most of us have left things till the last minute like Christmas presents or putting a holiday on a credit card or anything. So how about plan the next year the things you already know about.

Presents
You have 12 months to get xmas shop done so why not in each month get a present that they will need or match their interests like my brother in law always wants tools. If your struck for birthdays you can dip into your Xmas grotto.

Money pots
Cash is strapped every time you have to pay a bill that you know about like the MOT and car service so how about having a money pot for that bill. By making a bank account for your car you can put X amount of money in your pot per month ready for the dreaded payout. You can do this for any other things you stress about in the year or save away for a rainy day. But remember to pay off your other debts first.

Get a journal or an organiser
These became really helpful during the year. I was able to plan which birthday cards to buy in bulk, plan my stepping stones to a target I know about, listing the presents I have got for my family and any events I know they come around annually.

So plan away, make some improvements and enjoy a calmful new year

November 2022 Christmas calm

Every year,r most people rush out to buy everyone Christmas presents. However, they struggle to clear the debt the in new year. So how about this idea give them a free favour voucher.

Basically, it’s a voucher or a piece of paper which can say “free favour,”

It can be anything like

A lift to somewhere
A chore around the house
Babysitting
Treat shortly

So if you are cash-strapped or out of ideas a favour voucher would be great because they will appreciate it.

October 2022 light a candle

A time when goblins, spooks and demons come out to play. A wave of kids swoop down the streets collecting sweets. The adults party along until being vanquish of the morning sun.

However, we can relax by craving out pumpkins and bob for apples.

Also, it is time to remember the dead. So, light a candle, have pumpkin soup or hot chocolate and reflect on the past and the fallen loved ones who have given by precious memories.

September 2022 lessons

Lessons come and go. It could be small or big. However, though they will come back in a different way. Depending on your experience you may pass the lesson or it will kick you again.

We walk along the paths and all of the sudden we walk into a trap. It could be anything like falling into a hole or tripped up. We learn to get out of the traps aftermath and continue our way. Most of the time it will come around again. However, if don’t learn from our mistakes it could lead to a different consequences.

The worst case scenario is you fail the lesson and it can cost you heavy like financially, friendship, health or even life.

Learn your lessons and teach others your experience so they don’t fall in the same trap

August 2022 let go of the past

This month I have experienced a turbulent month. However, after the event I was sound and cleared my mind.

I can not go into great detail. An event occurred and exploded which cause a ripple effect with in the area. For me I had a lot of resent, stress and anxiety. At home I was cursing everyone including me until I felt a trigger. I realise when the trigger went off I was slowly falling into the darkness and it was spreading within me. So, I got my journal out and wrote a letter to the event. I also done a what lessons I have learnt and how I will go round it again. Then I let the event go into the past and healed myself. The next day people are still suffering from the event because they haven’t made peace with it and choose to keep hold of it.

So here are the steps I have done

1, after the event make peace with it

You can write a letter to it and forgive people in that letter.

2, let it go

The longer you keep hold on to the toxic event you will get worst. It will effect your relationships, friendships and anything which you will are bonded with. You will push them away and worst case scenario the bonds will get cut by your own actions.
So let go of it

3, move on from it

Move on from it and leave it in the past. Also use it as a stepping stone to improve yourself.

So reflect, let it go and move on.

Just imagine yourself your on bridge and your carrying a stick. You drop the stick into the river and watch it disappear. That stick is the toxic event.

That’s all I did and if anybody still holds a grudge from it just say let it go and move on otherwise you will lose everything.