February 2020 (Social Media)

I know this has been late but I have been ill from the common cold and I had a bad depression episode which I will explain in this post.

Social Media Is it boost or poison?

Think over this month word by mouth, Media, and Social Media hound down and unfortunately people took their own lives. Not going into detail or alienate the famous and the normal but there are people over the world are cruel and jealous of other people and do anything to break them down and plunge them into the darkness of the mental black hole. For me, social media is mainly a poison for me but small glimmers it can be a booster. A booster for me is when people like or positivity comment on you and whey. However, it can work the other way that you post something and nothing happens or your begging for something for that boost. I got so low it affected me and it nearly got to me.
Also what didn’t help was people whacking me down after I made improvements around my work area or I done something to get but people negativity commented to me.
Another thing was that valentines were a bad time because it mainly reminded me I got cheated on that day but also it is overhyped and why celebrate love on one day when we should celebrate it every day. For me, I would pick a day in my mind and surprise my partner (if I had one) and give them a time of our lives. Also, it doesn’t help when you are knocking on a door but never get an answer or back of the queue.

How to overcome the poison?

I know it’s easy said than done but ignore the noise of the media and social media. If there is a nasty comment on your profile try and delete it or imagine it’s on a chalkboard and ease it out or print it out and shed it, screw it into a ball and throw it in a bin. I can remember a cartoon frame where Garfield threw a ball into a basket hoop and it fell into a bin. Some people, but I don’t recommend it, burn it.

How to boost people and yourself?

I must of admit I leave compliments to people to give them a boost and make them feel better, like ‘you are looking amazing,’ ‘you are doing great work, keep it up!’ etc but be careful people can confuse it for flirting from complimenting so if you are worried about the stigma put at the start May I say because I believe it takes the stigma away.

As for yourself, first of all, be careful with this exercise if you are not in a great place skip it and come back when you are mentally strong enough.

Draw a line over ten dots with love and hate at each end be honest to yourself draw where you think you are. If you have more love or than hate a great job. 50% it’s ok but be careful or when I have done it, I hated myself more than love myself. I first feelings was scary, upsetting, depressing and felt like giving up and disappear. But I wrote down why I hated myself which was Regret, debt, not getting replies, deep in depression etc.
How did i solve it i made a gratitude journal and a mind dump journal.

Gratitude journal
Write down 10 things you are grateful for, I’ll even help you. Food, shelter, family, friends, health and life.
Also, write a single grateful paragraph.

Mind dump
Get a journal and every morning or night drain your mind into a journal or on a piece of paper.
Write everything down to clear it.

Another thing I would try in the near future pick up a mirror look it and a positive comment like I like you, I love you, you look awesome etc
I heard about it on Fearne Cotton podcast happy place which I recommend to listen to.

Next month, I will be trying a 20-day challenge which I’ll keep quiet until next time.

January 2020

Yes, it’s late but I decided to start writing about it in February but this started back in January.

In this month is the new me, and a new journal and a new quest.

I had an average month but I could have done more which I design a journal which hopefully helps me inhabits, plans, mental, health etc.

Last year it was successful until I had a car crash which totally changes my life and fell off the journal rails.

So firstly I have decided to go back to the Cotswolds in March and finish it to put to rest the demon that haunts me.

Secondly, I brushed off the dust collected on my kettlebell and use it.
The exercises I used is to lift and the bell and twist your arm up and gently bring it down. Squat, swinging it between your legs using your hips, and windmill. If you want to google or YouTube it.

Thirdly going back to my last year’s journal and source the good out of it and what worked well.

So things will look up, clearing everything up, and enjoying life more. If it helps get a book plain, lined or what I’m using dotted. Look at Pinterest or google journal ideas to create your journal because what works well for me may not go well for you and also it’s more personal when you create it yourself.

The black hole did try and pull me in but not this year.

30-day journal prompt challenge

I’ve done a 30-day prompt journal challenge. It was interesting as I learnt more of myself and deep down inside me. It was painful at times, but I’m glad I have done it, and I can see what kind of character I am. So, I challenge you to the challenge. Here’s how I have done it. I chose a prompt from the list and wrote a few sentences. Here’s the list and there is no harm of making your own prompts. If you have your own share in the comment box and not the answer unless you are comfortable with it.

1. What would you do if you knew you could not fail?
2. The greatest advice I would give my teenage self is…
3. Make a list of 20 things that make you smile.
4. If I’m really honest. . .
5. What would your body say to you now if it could talk?
6. I feel most energised when I…
7. Who or what was your first love?
8. Make a list of 30 things that inspire you. It can include everything from people to books to places and paintings.
9. What does your most blissful day look like?
10. The words I intend to live by from here on in are. . .
11. What do you need to let go of right now?
12. How are you feeling right now?
13. I am. . .
14. I feel. . .
15. I do. . .
16. I love. . .
17. I see. . .
18. I understand. . .
19. What are you most afraid of revealing about yourself?
20. How have you grown from mistakes you’ve made in life?
21. What could you do to create more happiness in your life as you are living it right now?
22. Write your own obituary.
23. The best adventure I ever had began when. . .
24. If I wait to be ready, I’ll never. . .
25. I want. . .
26. Write the words you need to hear and from whom?
27. Make a list of everything you would like to say ‘yes’ to.
28. What 20 things are you grateful for in your life right in this moment?
29. Where would you live if you could live anywhere on the planet and why?
30. What has surprised you most about life so far?

Btw there is one thing I will mention now. I didn’t choose the prompt. It choose me!
The list was inspired and take from the internet and online course I have done

Dahlia Festival

I arrived at one of my favourite places, Anglesey Abbey, Cambridgeshire, UK. It’s a lovely place to walk around trees, especially the silver birch. Seeing the mill in action with a flowing river. The beautiful thing about this place I love the most is its flower collections, winter with its snowdrops, spring/summer roses and autumn with its dahlias. They come in all different shapes and sizes, and there is a wall of dahlias in one area. Also, they use the dahlia heads from nurseries to make a line of dahlias, decorate statues, make arches, hanging them and a dahlia circle. It’s worth going if you are a fan of dahlias click on the link below to see why!

https://www.facebook.com/pg/ABrothwellphotography/photos/?tab=album&album_id=2383023585308651

Fruitful fields

Our productivity fields can vary at any time. It can be barren, and you could probably imagine a tumbleweed going across. But next time you may see it full of abundance.
How did we do it? A lot of time, effort and care.

Effort
Keep working hard on the field and never give up.

Time
Be patient everything needs time to grow

Care
Water and look after your crops since they need nurturing through its young age.

Keep to your fields and work on them and see your fruits of your labour and don’t worry about your neighbours and never compare with them because you don’t know how long they have been working on their fields and you may lose focus and create mistakes which could cause you to lose all your hard work!

Positive and negative post it note challenge

Here’s a challenge for you, get two different coloured post-it notes. One colour representing positive and the other colour negative. Starting on one colour write a one-word attribute like confident in the dark then rip it off and throw it down. Then after you finish swap colours also in the dark and repeat. After you finish, turn the light on and see if you are positive or negative. If you are positive, keep it up. If your negative, it’s okay but just turns a few negative things into it’s opposite. You will feel better afterwards. for my results, I had more positive 3 times over than negative.

Stepping stones (life goals)

People asked me how did you write ten short stories in a few years almost a series. Well, I used stepping stones to reach my goal. My goal for writing is to write a 10 short stories series, and I’m about halfway of my sixth draft. But I broke it down to write a page of words daily a small stone I know yes but a page of words combined into a chapter. A group of chapters turn into a story. A group of stories into a series. So if you have any life goals that look hard or too long or too difficult. Break it down into smaller stones. Like Marathon start with one mile. A new musical instrument starts with getting used to playing it. Then one note at a time and so on.
Make your life goals, break them down and start working towards them.