February 2020 (Social Media)

I know this has been late but I have been ill from the common cold and I had a bad depression episode which I will explain in this post.

Social Media Is it boost or poison?

Think over this month word by mouth, Media, and Social Media hound down and unfortunately people took their own lives. Not going into detail or alienate the famous and the normal but there are people over the world are cruel and jealous of other people and do anything to break them down and plunge them into the darkness of the mental black hole. For me, social media is mainly a poison for me but small glimmers it can be a booster. A booster for me is when people like or positivity comment on you and whey. However, it can work the other way that you post something and nothing happens or your begging for something for that boost. I got so low it affected me and it nearly got to me.
Also what didn’t help was people whacking me down after I made improvements around my work area or I done something to get but people negativity commented to me.
Another thing was that valentines were a bad time because it mainly reminded me I got cheated on that day but also it is overhyped and why celebrate love on one day when we should celebrate it every day. For me, I would pick a day in my mind and surprise my partner (if I had one) and give them a time of our lives. Also, it doesn’t help when you are knocking on a door but never get an answer or back of the queue.

How to overcome the poison?

I know it’s easy said than done but ignore the noise of the media and social media. If there is a nasty comment on your profile try and delete it or imagine it’s on a chalkboard and ease it out or print it out and shed it, screw it into a ball and throw it in a bin. I can remember a cartoon frame where Garfield threw a ball into a basket hoop and it fell into a bin. Some people, but I don’t recommend it, burn it.

How to boost people and yourself?

I must of admit I leave compliments to people to give them a boost and make them feel better, like ‘you are looking amazing,’ ‘you are doing great work, keep it up!’ etc but be careful people can confuse it for flirting from complimenting so if you are worried about the stigma put at the start May I say because I believe it takes the stigma away.

As for yourself, first of all, be careful with this exercise if you are not in a great place skip it and come back when you are mentally strong enough.

Draw a line over ten dots with love and hate at each end be honest to yourself draw where you think you are. If you have more love or than hate a great job. 50% it’s ok but be careful or when I have done it, I hated myself more than love myself. I first feelings was scary, upsetting, depressing and felt like giving up and disappear. But I wrote down why I hated myself which was Regret, debt, not getting replies, deep in depression etc.
How did i solve it i made a gratitude journal and a mind dump journal.

Gratitude journal
Write down 10 things you are grateful for, I’ll even help you. Food, shelter, family, friends, health and life.
Also, write a single grateful paragraph.

Mind dump
Get a journal and every morning or night drain your mind into a journal or on a piece of paper.
Write everything down to clear it.

Another thing I would try in the near future pick up a mirror look it and a positive comment like I like you, I love you, you look awesome etc
I heard about it on Fearne Cotton podcast happy place which I recommend to listen to.

Next month, I will be trying a 20-day challenge which I’ll keep quiet until next time.

January 2020

Yes, it’s late but I decided to start writing about it in February but this started back in January.

In this month is the new me, and a new journal and a new quest.

I had an average month but I could have done more which I design a journal which hopefully helps me inhabits, plans, mental, health etc.

Last year it was successful until I had a car crash which totally changes my life and fell off the journal rails.

So firstly I have decided to go back to the Cotswolds in March and finish it to put to rest the demon that haunts me.

Secondly, I brushed off the dust collected on my kettlebell and use it.
The exercises I used is to lift and the bell and twist your arm up and gently bring it down. Squat, swinging it between your legs using your hips, and windmill. If you want to google or YouTube it.

Thirdly going back to my last year’s journal and source the good out of it and what worked well.

So things will look up, clearing everything up, and enjoying life more. If it helps get a book plain, lined or what I’m using dotted. Look at Pinterest or google journal ideas to create your journal because what works well for me may not go well for you and also it’s more personal when you create it yourself.

The black hole did try and pull me in but not this year.

Dahlia Festival

I arrived at one of my favourite places, Anglesey Abbey, Cambridgeshire, UK. It’s a lovely place to walk around trees, especially the silver birch. Seeing the mill in action with a flowing river. The beautiful thing about this place I love the most is its flower collections, winter with its snowdrops, spring/summer roses and autumn with its dahlias. They come in all different shapes and sizes, and there is a wall of dahlias in one area. Also, they use the dahlia heads from nurseries to make a line of dahlias, decorate statues, make arches, hanging them and a dahlia circle. It’s worth going if you are a fan of dahlias click on the link below to see why!

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My 2015 photography collections

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2015 collections

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Anglesey Abbey winter lights 2015

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It was going to be a special evening, but my relationship fell apart however for me it wasn’t meant to be. So I decided to go alone. It cleared my head and travel around the site. But then after getting my pulled pork roll and hot drink I felt alone, knowing if it carried on I would have a lot more fun. So I carried on missing out a light and shadow performance. What caught my eye throughout the trail was how they used milk bottles and turned them into decoration

 

winter lights

Burys wolf trail

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Hidden around Bury St Edmunds are wolves. Searching high on rooftop and low as the pavement big as adults or small as printing blocks I manage to find 24 out 26 wolves. Almost a perfect hunt if I had an extra hour. The art work is incredible and I place my favourites on my Instagram account https://instagram.com/adrianbrothwell/ click on link below for all my pictures but if you count one wolf short. It’s because one of them was a motion pictures.

Burys wolf trail 11 july25